Forgive ... and Forget????

I found this video by Dr. Paul that talks about forgiving and forgetting. He takes a realistic approach that states there may be some things that aren't forgiveable or that you don't want to forget. His focus is on relationships but what he says can be applied to a lot of different situations.

Want to be Happy (or Happier)? Tonight on Get It Together Girl Radio!

Personally, I don't think it is possible to be truly happy without gratitude and passion. When I talk about gratitude, I mean being thankful for what you have right now. It might not be what you want and you might not be where you want to be but you should be grateful for where you are right now. On the continuum of life, things could be better but they could also be a lot worse. Hillis Pugh, author of the book and blog, Thank You Thursdays, have a great conversation about what it means to be truly grateful and what to do when you are going through a difficult time and not feeling particularly thankful.

Next, I have a talk with transformational life coach Lana Green. Her take on finding your passion is slightly different from what you might think. Here's a hint, it's not really about what you do or don't do. I found Lana to be a very provocative interview and her take on passion and purpose are both refreshing and realistic.

Jake

My partner-in-crime Marty passed in September. A toy poodle, we were together for over a decade. He was the closest thing I had to a child. He was my baby. The grief was hard. Yet part of me missed canine companionship.

I sort of felt though that a new dog would be cheating on Marty. I decided to go to an adoption event. I didn’t find a dog there. But I started looking, I saw Toby, an adorable poodle mix with a cute underbite online and he was perfect. I instantly knew that this was the dog Marty wanted me to have.

My dad had a dog and he and Marty became best friends. They ate out of the same bowl, slept together on the same part of the sofa; they were inseparable. He was a poodle mix with a cute under bite and his name was Toby.

He’d been picked up from a shelter and was staying with a foster family. When I went to meet him, it was a done deal. He jumped into my lap and fell asleep. His foster parents were amazed at how quickly we bonded. In fact, they felt that he chose me as much as I chose him.

I am definitely a pet parent. Having Jake (I changed his name) has added that missing component to my life. Jake isn’t Marty. They are two very different dogs. The space in my heart for Marty will always be there and it will always be just for him. But Jake is occupying another space in my heart. There is room for both.

Tonight's Show: Secrets to Relationship Success

Men and women are different, we all know that. However, author of Relationship Rules and relationship expert, Janice Hoffman, uses those differences to get down to the things that both genders share – a desire to love and be loved. Her mentor, Dr. John Gray is the author of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. She will be sharing tips from her toolbox on what we can do to help our relationships thrive.

Next up, Toni Henderson-Mayers  discusses her book, Wise Courtship. She has a three-step process for discovering the true character of your love interest. We’ll also discuss red flags and how much you really know about your partner. Toni challenges singles to make wise choices when choosing a partner. Are you up for the challenge?

Time for a Change

“So how’s that working for you?” This is Dr. Phil’s favorite question and when he asks it, the answer is usually ‘No’. Basically, it comes after the person he is interviewing describes their current situation and the behaviors that have led them to the show. Frankly, what they are doing isn’t working.

Tipping the scale at the heaviest I’ve ever been, I decided it was time for a change. I headed back to Weight Watchers. I had successfully lost weight on the program before and I was sure I could do it again. When I tell people I’m on the program, I get either one of two responses.

The first group of people are excited and happy for me. The second group says something like “I can’t count Points.” This is the beginning of a list of reasons why the plan wouldn’t work for them. First of all, I am not trying to recruit people. I’m doing this for me so whether or not the plan is for them is inconsequential.

Second, if what I was doing (fast food, sugary snacks, large portion sizes, occasional exercise) was working, I wouldn’t need Weight Watchers. If I wanted a change, I need to do something different. Different results require different actions. I could count points, purchase a lot of Jenny Craig or Nutri-System meals, eliminate carbs, take the latest weight loss pills, or kill myself at the gym,  but something would have to change.

The key is finding the right change for me. And although I am using weight loss as an example, this applies to any area where a change is desired. Want to save money? You have to change your spending. Want an improved relationship? You are both going to have to do some things differently if you want it to work.

Ask yourself, “How’s this working for me.?” If the answer is no, you know what you need to do!

Tonight's Show: Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life!

I was a member of a church in Cleveland and every week we’d sing a song. The lyrics were simple but the meaning was profound.

Our thoughts are prayers.
And we are always praying.
Our thoughts are prayers.
Take heed of what your saying.

Your thoughts determine how you feel. How you feel determines how you will act. Yet, most of us live at the mercy of our thoughts. Instead of walking the dog, the dog is walking us! On tonight’s show, we’ll have Meg Alexander who is practitioner of Belief Repatterning.

Belief Repatterning goes beyond affirmations and positive thinking to the beliefs at the core that can change how you are thinking.

This show is a must for people who are struggling to make positive life changes.